aquilumrosa
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Feb 26, 2007 3:58:18 GMT
Post by aquilumrosa on Feb 26, 2007 3:58:18 GMT
Yea, I know. This is quite interesting.
So I remember I posted back in december about my parent's divorce. But today was a real surreal day. Now I'm the kind of person who likes to stay up until midnight and sleep until noon. So today, both my parents come into my room, and they are all waking me up. Half asleep, I'm all whhaaat??? and they're all "We're getting back together." I flip on the radio and get up and start getting ready for the day, and Under the Bridge from the Red Hot Chili Peppers was on, and then Fully Alive from Flyleaf. That kinda, I guess contributed to the "it's a new day" "it's going to be different" feeling that I've never really experienced before. It wasn't like an emptiness, it was.. oh hell I suck at describing. Anyways, after everything has been settled in court, after my mom picked her new house and was about to move in next week, and after all the financial stuff had been settled, this was weird. It almost feels like I've died and gone to heaven, like everything's all nice and peaceful. And happy. And they were all "We're going to try and make everything better." It's definately going to take some getting used to, but I hope things don't take a turn for the worse again. So out of this we have our house, a little condo, and some financial issues straghtened out. But craziest of all, today, my mom and dad were holding hands, even in the car, something I'd never seen them do during the course of my lifetime. Has anyone else experienced something like this, that just feels so... weird, and odd?
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Feb 26, 2007 4:19:40 GMT
Post by imaginarywhisper on Feb 26, 2007 4:19:40 GMT
Well, I don't think I've ever felt the way you've described, but I'm really happy for you. It's great that your parents are staying together and I hope they always will.
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Feb 26, 2007 6:45:03 GMT
Post by Robynn on Feb 26, 2007 6:45:03 GMT
Yeah, I've been there and done that, although, my parents never actually filed for divorce. I'm sure they were THIS close more than once. The last time it happened, my dad ended up having a minor heart attack, and my mom realized what she'd lose if she lost Dad...so she straightened up a bit, and they worked things out. Even though I'm older, it still sucks big time if the 'rents are having that kind of trouble. No custody issues with us kids, but there certainly would be with MY kids in my will....who would they go live with if I die?
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Feb 27, 2007 17:58:42 GMT
Post by aquilumrosa on Feb 27, 2007 17:58:42 GMT
I hope this doesn't get into their decision, but last night my mother received an email from my sister in law. It was pretty harsh, and extremely hurtful on so many levels. And apparently my brother approved of her sending it out. He's got some beef with her too now. And since my grandparents don't know of the decision, them, and everyone else on my dad's side of the family are all hellbent on erasing her from their lives. So once again she's contemplating whether she'd stay or go. I kinda wish she can just ignore everyone else for the time being while she heals - she was completely outraged last night, and also in tears. Mom told me she wants to see how the next few days pan out, but I don't think she sees what she's losing if she actually divorces from my father.
What a shitty birthday present too. I think she needs a vacation, something that would help her take her mind off of this.
It almost felt like a huge battleground over here. I had to get that out.
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Feb 27, 2007 23:15:29 GMT
Post by Robynn on Feb 27, 2007 23:15:29 GMT
If your father has decided to try to keep this marriage together, then he should stand up to his family and tell them it's none of their affair....at least. Sounds like he wants things to work out, but if he really, truly does, he needs to be a man and tell his family to butt out. If he doesn't do that, then you know how the rest of their marriage will be.....they won't back down until HE tells them to, and her asking/telling them to will only make her more of the bad guy. I really hope your father does the right thing. As hard as it is....he's in a tough spot! But it won't work otherwise. Dr. Phil AND Dr. Laura both agree on this subject....and I don't even like Dr. Laura.
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Feb 28, 2007 19:10:32 GMT
Post by stratlady on Feb 28, 2007 19:10:32 GMT
^^^One of my psych teacher told us that Dr Laura wasn't even a real doctor.
@katie: That must be such a hard situation for your mother and family. Having such a lack of support doesn't make this situation ideal at all. But if your parents decided to get back together, they'll work it out. Not saying it'll be easy though. Honestly, I think that getting some extra help outside the house wouldn't be such a bad idea (especially if you consider how the rest of the familly is acting).
I hope you guys get through it and that everything will be fine again. My prayers will be with you. *hug*
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Mar 1, 2007 2:20:03 GMT
Post by Robynn on Mar 1, 2007 2:20:03 GMT
No. She has a doctorate degree....in physics, or something like that. It's not in psychology, I know that. At least, last time I checked she hadn't gotten the degree. She was taking classes though, so I dunno now. So technically, she's Dr. But not in what she's using the title for.
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aquilumrosa
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Mar 1, 2007 7:49:49 GMT
Post by aquilumrosa on Mar 1, 2007 7:49:49 GMT
^^^One of my psych teacher told us that Dr Laura wasn't even a real doctor.
@katie: That must be such a hard situation for your mother and family. Having such a lack of support doesn't make this situation ideal at all. But if your parents decided to get back together, they'll work it out. Not saying it'll be easy though. Honestly, I think that getting some extra help outside the house wouldn't be such a bad idea (especially if you consider how the rest of the familly is acting).
I hope you guys get through it and that everything will be fine again. My prayers will be with you. *hug* Thanks... well it seems as if my dad is kinda trying to piece things together. He was saying to my mom when she read the email that it was totally stupid and uncalled for, and he was also comforting her. As a side note, yesterday was my mom's birthday, and he did buy her a dozen roses which shows how much he cares. Though my dad is usually quite apathetic, I think I'm starting to see that he is feeling something, or maybe I just have been too caught up in myself to even pay attention. I also have to add that I've ran out of my meds in september of 2006, because my doctor only wanted me to stay on them for only six months. It was exactly a year ago when she placed me on Prozac for severe depression. I've been numb ever since, but I guess the one good thing that's coming out of all this is that I'm starting to regain some feeling. I know I've felt kind of almost "hyper", which is definately out of the ordinary these past couple months, and I know it's not ADD or ADHD or anything of the sort because I was tested for that. I think I'm overly sensitive to EVERYTHING, which might explain some of the effect of the 20mg dosage I used to take. And though my doctor said that it would take awhile before the drug is completely out of my system, it probably wouldn't take this long.
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Mar 1, 2007 19:44:20 GMT
Post by Robynn on Mar 1, 2007 19:44:20 GMT
6 months almost, it's gone. BUT, your brain can do some amazing things, like make you feel like you're on them when there's nothing in your system. As for the "hyper" feeling you get, that makes me wonder if bi-polar could be an issue. Going from hyper to really depressed is a red flag for that. Ask your doctor about it. As for your folks, your dad is doing exactly what he's supposed to be doing. Looks like real effort is being made. I'd not worry about them any more, for right now. Just concentrate on YOU feeling better, and not numb.
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Mar 2, 2007 4:17:51 GMT
Post by aquilumrosa on Mar 2, 2007 4:17:51 GMT
Hmm... well I did take an online quiz off of WebMD.com and did a little research also and here's what I got, so there is a chance that I could have the bipolar II disorder, but I'm obviously not certain. These are my results, and it describes exactly how I've been feeling. When it lists symptoms, I bolded the things I've been feeling.
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Mar 2, 2007 6:02:04 GMT
Post by Robynn on Mar 2, 2007 6:02:04 GMT
And anti-depressants by themselves can put you in a manic state, so they use mood stablizors and other meds, to even you out. I'd go see a doctor about it. Get the right meds, and then you won't swing from depression to "everything's all great with the world, nothing can stop me now" moods. You'll stay more even, and stuff won't bother you like they do now. You'll like yourself more.
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Mar 3, 2007 4:01:32 GMT
Post by stratlady on Mar 3, 2007 4:01:32 GMT
Before getting on the meds, if I were you I'd do counseling and try to see psychiatrist.
See, you are going to stressful times right now, and your environment maybe influencing you in feelings all these emotions. Add to this that you are off your meds and this may be what cause you to feel hyper.
Meds will not solve everything especially if the cause of your problems is your external environment. Personally, I would use the meds as the last solution because those have side effect and you really want to be sure that you are doing the right things.
Doctors aren't psychiatrist, and yes they can give you the meds, but they don't have the all the needed knowledge to evaluate the extend to which external and/or internal factors cause your hyperactivity.
My 0.02$. Good luck with all and I am glad to hear about how positively your father is behaving.
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Mar 3, 2007 5:27:23 GMT
Post by aquilumrosa on Mar 3, 2007 5:27:23 GMT
Thanks, Mary and Robynn.
Mary, you could be right on the environmental thing. I know my environment has definately influenced how I've felt in the past. I used to be a loner, and I guess that took a toll on me, for example. And as far as my dad being all positive and awesome - well I guess that was maybe one of the reasons I was more drawn to living with him before the divorce was cancelled. I've always been able to get along with him better than my mom, too. Right now I'm just going to see how things play out. I had a nice dinner - eating with both my mom and my dad, and since I've gotten home, I've been watching the KoRn unplugged videos on the MTV website. So it's kinda happy right now.
But then there's always that chance that something could go wrong, and everything will change just as fast as my mood does. Something always seems to happen. >.<
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Mar 23, 2007 3:15:48 GMT
Post by inthedarkness on Mar 23, 2007 3:15:48 GMT
Yeah, I remember when you posted about that. It's pretty lucky. The most I can really say is that it's great and good luck.
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