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Post by Robynn on Apr 12, 2007 20:05:34 GMT
So, most of you know about getting fired from job a year ago (almost). And most of you remember why (allegations of abuse, cuz I hate kids.....really, I hate kids..can't you tell?) I know I posted somewhere that the state had filed for a restraining order against me, for the rest of my life, that would have devistated my entire life, over something I didn't do.
Today was my court date, because I fought it. Back in December, I hired a lawyer, and was fighting this, since I didn't do it, and the only "real" evidence they had was my partner's statement that said I put the boy in a proper restraint (the original allegations were the restraint with my elbow in the boys back to hurt him, and while I was there, I made several threats, one of them to kill him....:rollseyes:) Well, yesterday and the day before, my lawyer spent quality time on the phone with the lawyer who was taking care of it for the state. Now, keep in mine, I'm fighting the government!!!! How often have you heard of anyone winning a case against the government? So here's the scoop. Since I don't want to work with kids any more, and work with adults, they're willing to lower the restraining order to two years (which has already passed, maybe...I dunno) and I have to take one 8 hour class on how to stay out of situations where restraints my be necissary. So yeah, I can get certified to be a "life coach" and work with adults! Do what I do anyway, with friends, and on the boards, only charge people moneys for it. I don't have to admit to doing anything, just that the allegations are severe enough to warrant the action taken. It's not the same as wining the case and being able to sue for unlaweful termination and all that, but it's a pretty good compromise....I guess. It's a LOT better than sitting in court today and listening to all the lies all over again, trying not to cry since that would show guilt on my part, when it's really just sadness that it's being said about me....trying to pick apart their story piece by piece. But, what I've learned through this experience, and my experience and jury foreman, it's really not innocent until proven guilty....it's the other way around, no matter how loud you shout the other. *sigh* They should have had to prove I did it, not that I had to prove the allegors were lying.
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Post by snowwhite on Apr 12, 2007 21:32:03 GMT
Hate kids so much...thats why you sit here giving me help all the time >_< I dont really know what to say... its crap when people say stuff like that and it obviously isnt true. But atleast things arent as bad as they could have been for you...
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Post by Robynn on Apr 13, 2007 4:38:29 GMT
Yeah, they can't stop me from helping you guys...I just can't go to a licensed facility. No one can keep me from who I am.
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Post by simon on Apr 13, 2007 16:49:57 GMT
It's Never Innocent til proven guilty... I think it's hypocritical for any lawyer to EVER claim that.. An Innocent person is always tried as a guilty. And it's much Easier to Prove someone guilty then prove one Innocent. Clearly your Lawyer knew that and cut you a deal. You probably got the closest thing to a best case senario, That You could have gotten.
Is this case over now?
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Post by Robynn on Apr 13, 2007 19:28:15 GMT
Yeah, it's over now. In my head, I keep playing the "what if" game though, so it's not totally over in my head.
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Post by stratlady on Apr 13, 2007 20:22:53 GMT
Wow Robyn. I had no idea that things were that bad. Chesh.
That was something. Well, at least you had a good deal...although I kinda agree with you. Technically it's innocent til proven guilty... not the other way around.
Oh and I understand the "what if" game. I hate it; I always end up doing that with serious situations...and then I need to make some sort of super conscious effort to get out of it, 'cuz it ends up really obsessing me. Yeah, I really hate it.
But I am glad it's all over for you Robyn. At least now you can close that chapters of your life and move on to better things. Now that is cool. Congrads on that.
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Post by Robynn on Apr 14, 2007 0:33:06 GMT
book is still open...I'm still "what if"ing.....it sucks. but I'm getting better. obsessing is bad, mmkay?
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Post by simon on Apr 14, 2007 0:47:06 GMT
The "What If's" Suck. There are so many What if in My life right now, I know exactly what your are going through. It sucks that the accusation will still stick. That's the worst part about all this. I mean you and the people have done nothing but help Jussie and I and Just knowing that you guys will listen and support us is AMAZING! I really dunno what Jussie Especially would do without the Love and Support on this Board. So It would be a shame for this to ruin your chances to help people.
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Post by Devilfish on Apr 14, 2007 9:12:08 GMT
I'm really glad you at least got a compromise ont hsi robynn. its better than what they were quite capable of doing to you, the goverment sucks. some people walk into that court room guilty... whether their innnocent or not. its not innocent till proven guilty, thats a quirky remark made up so the lawyers can pretend to care about their clients.
as for the "what'if" game.
We have been here before havn't we robynn?, everything happens for a reason. whats done is done. and the if i could go back and change it, doesnt work.
You got a good outcome to something that looked, dire. its possibly the best you could have hoped for. and im astonished you took this all on your plate, and foi. and just wow robynn you truly are an amazing person.
Congrats on even getting through it in one piece - there are people who wouldnt have.
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Post by Robynn on Apr 15, 2007 19:17:08 GMT
I swear I didn't challenge "worse" the other day!!!!
I came home on my lunch hour yesterday to an e-mail from my mother..... So, we put the check back in the mail back to her, since we received it yesterday, and the banks are closed.
Now, why I was so angry/hurt, I never saw the e-mails between her and Jessica. I also never asked for a penny, it was offered to JESSICA...and the check was made out to JESSICA.
Apparently, I was supposed to actually spend $300 on a dress, instead of getting a $300 dress for $12. There's nothing wrong wtih said dress, and it's beautiful...What'd I do wrong?
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Post by stratlady on Apr 15, 2007 21:38:26 GMT
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Post by Robynn on Apr 16, 2007 3:08:47 GMT
I didn't send the money back until I got that e-mail....I had JUST received the money, so just put the check back in the mail. She dind't know I'd gotten the money yet, as far as I know.
and yeah. $12 for that dress, with nothing wrong with it. No stains, broken zippers, nothing! It's even the right length, and she's short! She's my youngest...she's 16. I thought my mom and I had a good relationship until this. Now I don't know WHAT to think. *shrugs*
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Post by stratlady on Apr 16, 2007 14:29:52 GMT
Well, in that case, maybe your mom just had a bad day and took it out on you or something.
*still think that this dress looks awesome*
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Post by nyohah on Apr 17, 2007 1:55:08 GMT
Wow, that is an amazing dress! I'm guessing you guys were ecstatic over finding it, and then the email kind of ruined it.
My guess is that your mother really wanted to buy something nice for your daughter and was hurt when she wasn't able to, so returning the money was kind of like taking back a gift. Either that or she didn't realize you were going to send her money back and thought you were taking it to spend on something else when she'd wanted it to be used for a dress, but that would imply that she doesn't trust you. Hopefully it was just a miscommunication.
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Post by Robynn on Apr 17, 2007 7:17:35 GMT
It was kind of a miscommunication. She sent the money so Jess would be on the same level as her friends, and not have to get the dress second hand. BUT, 3 of her friends (one of them being really well off) got their dresses there, hence why we stopped there first. We happened across said dress, and she didn't even want to try it on, because it wasn't red. BUT, once she had it on, we all did a triple take, and her boyfriend couldn't even speak. It was alway her decision to take it or to go keep looking. She loved it, so we bought it. I finally heard from Mom today, and she said she wasn't mad at me. But, the check is still on the way back to her house. The check was $150, and was supposed to by 2 prom dresses....one for each child. What century is she living in? MY prom dress, back in 1985 was almost $250. Prices didn't go down..... Anywho....we're doing prom. We're getting her hair done, she's gonna be BEE-AAH-OOOOO-TII-FUL, and my mom can still suck my big toe.
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